Yesterday I had the opportunity to talk on the phone for a little time with one of my dearest friends – who just happens to be a relative. 🙂
We were discussing negative messages that we’ve received in the past, and how they still play in our head and can keep us from reaching our goals and living life to the fullest. At times, it can seem as though someone is hitting a continuous play button on the mental CD on which these messages are recorded in our minds. And someone is.
You see, while he may not be the one who originally planted those negative messages, he certainly capitalizes on them and uses them over, and over, and over, and over.
Because he wants us to get our minds off Christ and what he has done for us. He wants us to forget who we are in Him. He wants us to live defeated. We need to pry his evil, little fingers off the play button of those negative messages.
By knowing the truth. John 8:32 tells us that the truth will set us free. We need to find the truth – and then live in it.
God’s word. We overcome these negative message by the truth God gives us in his Word. Frequently, when I am working with someone who struggles in this area, I ask them to put together a notebook of what God’s Word says about them. I give a few scriptures to get them started, but encourage them to delve deeper into the Bible to find the truth.
Genesis 1:27 tells us we were created in His image.
Psalm 139:14 tells us we were fearfully and wonderfully made.
John 3:16 tells us that God loves us so much that he sent his Son to die in our place.
2 Corinthians 5:17 tells us that in Christ we are a new creation.
1 John – pretty much the whole book – talks about us being the children of God.
2 Timothy 1:7 tells us that we are not given the spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
I put in the scripture (and there are several others) about fear because many times we are afraid of what others think of us. And this fear tends to immobilize us. In reality, the only person we need to be concerned about what they think is God. Period.
This is a difficult truth, but if we are more concerned about what others think of us than what God thinks, then we have put others above God’s place in our life.
About an hour before the conversation with my friend, I had a living reminder of the negative message CD.
Mama has gifted me with a beautiful dress, which came in the mail yesterday. Yay! Shan and I opened the package and went up to my room to try it on. Shan ‘oohed and aahed’ over how pretty it was and took me to a mirror to see. (The mirror is not my bff – just sayin’.) She kept saying, “Mama, this is so pretty.” But then she saw my upset face in the mirror and her face dropped. “What’s wrong?” She asked.
Several things were wrong: 1st, I had started listening to the negative message that I looked fat and ugly and disgusting. 2nd, I was instantly giving my daughter the message that I don’t like who God created me to be, and that happiness and beauty can only be found in being a size 6. And 3rd, I hadn’t pulled the empire waist line down far enough, so it did kind of make everything look out of proportion. 😉 I pulled it down, smiled, and asked God to let me see myself in his eyes. Guess what? Shannon was right. It is pretty.
I had to make the intentional effort to ask God what he thinks, and not listen to the things Satan was whispering in my ear. Remember, Satan is the ‘Father of Lies’.
God does think I need a camisole to wear under it, and Shan and I agree. It is rather low-cut.
After I get the above mentioned needed accessory, I will take a picture. Maybe. 😉
And on the topic of this discussion, I leave you with this song from Matthew West, “Hello, My Name Is.”
P.S. I apologize if there are any yucky advertisements before the video. Wish I could control that…